Updated: Aug 16, 2021
When I first learned about the concept of two people coming from the same soul (clarification about that later), I asked my spirit guides who my twin flame was. Being new to spirit guide communication, I tried automatic writing for the first time, which came out something like this: "Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah willow tree blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah." I googled 'willow tree' and got a website selling figurative and often spiritual sculptures, willowtree.com. A video in the website mentioned figurine twins at the same time I was thinking about a friend. Holy O'Leary's cow, is it her?
I googled more about twin flames and read that a twin flame union is reportedly far beyond any other kind of romance a human can have. Whoa. To confirm that my friend was indeed my twin, I asked my guides to show me a beluga whale, i.e., something random, within the following three days . Several hours later, I saw a beluga whale in a youtube video not about beluga whales. Jaw dropped, I pored into the twin flame literature on the web. With each morsel, the stakes grew higher, prompting me to double check each time whether she really was my twin.
Various sites proclaimed lofty ideas about twin flame unions. "There are only 144,000 twin flame pairs in the world" (no idea if this or anything else I read is true, but I bought into it at the time). Guides, show me a crow's feather. "Twin flames will be the vanguard for humanity to herald unconditional, non-codependent relationships." Guides, show me 9999 on the way home from the beach. "Twin flames will be anchors for the spirit world to transmit high frequency love to the planet and shift Earth into 5D consciousness." Guides, show me a sequence of 5555 and 2121 three times within the next 24 hours. Each time, the guides confirmed that she really was my twin.
We both became available....
Unlike the Hindenburg, we never got off the ground.
Twins as a descriptor not a limiter
Six months later, I had an hour long "Ask the Spirit Guides Questions" session with a medium I trust, Susanne Wilson. My guides assuaged any remaining doubts that my friend really is my twin. But I had missed something.
I have several twins.
My guides said that "twin flames" are a descriptor rather than a limiter. We humans, they said, erroneously think of twins as a limiter, so we think we only have one when that is not the case. I am not sure how a descriptor relates to the soul nature of twins. Are twins all from the same soul? Same oversoul? Souls birthed at the same time? A bunch of souls going through the same issues? I had a ba-jillion other questions, so I passed on following up on the nature twin flames. What struck me was how special yet unspecial a twin flame is. According to my guides, a twin flame is someone we truly get, someone whose sentences we complete. I thought of several people in my life who might fit that description, but I'm not sure. Whether these people are my twins or not changes very little in how I relate to them.
My guides emphasized that a romantic relationship can often burn each twin. We humans tend to want to make twin flame relationships romantic, which leads to angst and suffering over a relationship founded on Napalm. I experienced a ton of anxiety over my recent twin flame, and I've seen others in tears over theirs. Is it necessary to expend so much emotional energy over another human being? Perhaps, if it's part of the putative twin flame journey towards healing. My twin certainly helped me uncover and heal past wounds, but I think those wounds could have been uncovered and healed with someone else as well. So, perhaps not.
The narratives about twin flame romances I've encountered, i.e., "a union that no other human relationship can match, 144,000 twin pairs, vanguard for human relationships, lead humanity into 5D, etc.," dump a lot of heavy baggage on a human relationship. I'm not sure how a healthy relationship can grow under such pressure. It feels exciting but additionally crushing when the romance fails. And what if you are wrong about your love interest being your twin? Seems self-sabotaging to attach so much importance to another person in our lives.
Will my friend and I achieve twin flame union in the future? Anything can happen, but for now the twin flame nature of our connection is a curiosity to me rather than spur in the butt for dating. I've found it easier on my emotional health to regard her on a human level and not on a soul level. We're here to experience the 3D physical. If a healthy twin flame union emerges, it will be because we have focused on ourselves as people rather than as twins. As my guides said to me, a friendship is often the healthiest union a twin pair can have.